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VICE Magazine interviews Sybil Lamb on her novel I’ve Got A Time Bomb.

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"Corrective Therapy" for Asexuals from Medical Professionals

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vaginismusandsexuality:

If anyone has followed me or seen my posts you will know I have gone through some form of ‘corrective therapy’ for being a sex adverse asexual. My counselor told me to have sex until I like it and to have various medical tests to see what was wrong with me; my doctor prescribed me 3 different medications, two of which has been clinically proven to have no significant effect on ciswomen (Viagra and Cialis, the third was a testosterone supplement). I should not have to discuss the emotional turmoil it has put me through and what it has done to me.

Of course these forms of therapy is not as bad as corrective therapy for homosexuality, that is a whole other can of worms. Just because something is not as bad as another thing does not make it harmless and unworthy of discussion.

I am wondering if other asexuals have experienced actual ‘corrective therapy’ from their medical professionals strictly for being asexual. While these events are horrible and traumatizing, I think we need to discuss these things. We need to discuss ways to counter medical professionals who doubt asexuality exists/thinks it is a medical condition so no one in the future has to go through this.

I think first we need to discuss people who have had treatment recommended to them:

  • What treatment was suggested?
  • What was the medical professionals goals with the treatment?
  • Did they expect you to be cured or was it suggested as ongoing treatment?
  • How did the medical professional explain the treatment to you?
  • Did you mention asexuality to them? How did they respond?
  • Did they bring up asexuality to you? What was their explanation of asexuality?
  • After completing treatment and, surprise, still asexual how did the medical professional respond? Did they suggest further treatment or refer you elsewhere?
  • Were you seeing the medical professional for another related/unrelated issue when the issue of your orientation came up?
  • Were you coerced in any way by family/friends/others into seeing that medical professional who recommended ‘Corrective Therapy’?

 You can either reblog a response or submit one on my page - if you want to remain anonymous just say so. If I get any feedback I want to make a post with everyones responses and will simply leave out your name if you request. Don’t feel obligated to answer all the questions, just the ones that you feel effect you. 

Also if you have other questions you think are good to ask don’t be scared to send a quick note and I’ll add them.

Thanks in advance for any feedback. =)

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lisaquestions:

baeddelpherneliatakesthesquare:

skysquids:

agender-offender:

skysquids:

agender-offender:

so if its “just venting” to say “cis people make me uncomfortable” or “straight people make me uncomfortable” why isn’t it “just venting” for me to say “dmab people make me uncomfortable”

because the discomfort that i feel from cis people and straight people is based on a lifetime of small abuses, threats of violence, and actual violent attacks.  in addition, my words in no way contribute to or have the power to create systemic problems for them.  if they see what i’ve said and feel a little bad about it, well that’s where it ends.

when you say that dmab people make you uncomfortable, you’re speaking specifically about trans women - no one talks about cis men that way - or at least in such a way as to specifically include trans women.  your discomfort around trans women most likely stems from us talking, existing, or possibly the behavior of an individual trans women you met, or more likely, encountered online.  your discomfort with us as a class is transmisogyny - that is what being a bigot means: feeling discomfort about a marginalized group.  your discomfort does not stem from a lifetime of us controlling your life, ganging up on you with the support of the state & the law, criminalizing your basic existence, demanding your papers, refusing you medical care, ect.  your statement of discomfort is in support of and in collusion with an already existing, centuries old, systemic bias that has tried very hard to prevent us from existing and thus burdened, destroyed or ended many of our lives.

so like, that’s why.

no, i’m not talking about trans women. i’m talking about ALL people who have been assigned male, cis or not, who

  • have (attempted) to be violent towards me
  • have sexually harassed me; online and offline
  • have stalked/harassed me irl because i rejected them
  • have degraded dfab people forever
  • have raped, tortured, and killed dfab people just for being dfab
  • have fetishized women of my race and turned them into cute sex playthings
  • have fetishized women of many other races
  • many self proclaimed “trans women” online aren’t trans women - they’re drag queens who reinforce toxic misogynist stereotypes and use their ~trans woman~ status to be as misogynist as they possibly can
  • tumblr “trans women” harass lesbians and throw a fit when they wont have sex with them
  • MRAs harass women and throw a fit when they won’t have sex with them
  • MRAs exist
  • antifeminist men who think they even deserve a say in the subject exist

so you can’t pull the “but they dont oppress you so you cant say that” card

also, i’m severely dysphoric, to the point of violence, and things like sex and reproduction can make me really angry. so it’s understandable that i dont want to be around dmab people most of the time, or that im STILL wary of my dmab partner after years

don’t like me saying “i hate dmab people?” then don’t say “i hate cis/dfab/straight/monosexual people” because we do it for the exact same reasons

no, trans women are women.  you can say whatever you like, it does however, make you a bigot and an asshole.  thanks for trying though.

I’m just too AFAB radikewl gendergay to respect trans womyn and to not class them together with men. It causes me physical pain to not implicitly or explicitly put men and trans womyn into the same category.

I can’t not say they’re exactly the same because otherwise I’ll die. Medical condition and all.

Now let me say that trans womyn are directly responsible for the things men do, because remember, it causes me physical pain not to class trans womyn with men. But no see, I’m saying “dmab” and basically meaning men (while at the same time including trans womyn but I’m going to dance around that) so it’s all ok. Also, ew all these fucking trans womyn I don’t like are drag queens because I say so. Trans womyn do all the things men do - I mean dmab people. Trans womyn act the same exact ways as men. Trans womyn have violent male things. Trans womyn are male. This post is about how trans womyn are violent males.

Also, trans women are explicitly separate from lesbians forever and always. Even the trans lesbians. And all trans lesbians do is try to coerce cis lesbians into having sex with them. Because actually knowing facts is too much work.

Also, agender-offender/mari is a transmisogynist troll with no redeeming qualities. 

Also, tired of cafab trans people who try to use magical birth assignment rules to bypass the reality of transmisogyny and the impact such hatred has on trans women. They just invoke ~male socialization~ and that’s all it takes.

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gaywrites:

Wikipedia has blocked all computers from the House of Representatives from editing any of their content — because someone with an IP address from the House has been trolling the site with transphobic edits. 

Since earlier this week, comments have been appearing misgendering Laverne Cox, using slurs on pages about trans people, changing the definition of gender identity disorder, and citing notorious asshole Gavin McInnes in descriptions of trans people and transphobia. Wikipedia editors were forced to intervene when the person (or people) continued to make edit after edit.

This is the third time THIS SUMMER the House has been blocked from Wikipedia for “disruptive editing” by anonymous users. 

The person using the IP address responded — without revealing their identity — that the malicious edits were in fact “official business” endorsed by a member of the House. Their changes, they said, were intended to bring “fairness” to the discussion.

“There’s nothing illegal about editing Wikipedia to promote official business that has been explicitly authourized [sic] by the Representative,” the userwrote.

“When you have other Representatives trying to push for laws such as [the Employment Non-Discrimination Act],” the user continued, “or when you have the [European Union] using neocolonialist methods to impose transgenderism on the nation of Georgia through a visa agreement, it’s all the more important.” …

After this most recent banning, the outlawed anti-trans user wrote, “Blocked because I disagreed with the trans-lobby? These days, If I complain about a man using the womyn’s restroom then I’m cosidered transphobic and get called a TERF. This has been happening a lot lately here in the halls of Congress. If feeling uncomfortable about some creeper coming into the same bathroom as me is considered transphobic, then why is transphobia considered a bad thing? I wouldn’t be surprised if the Admin who banned this IP is trans. If she is a real woman, then she should should be following real Feminists like Julie Bindel, not sellouts to the trans lobby like Anita Sarkeesian. People need to understand that transgenderism is being promoted by the Patriarchy to diminish the experiences of real womyn.”

Our elected officials, my friends. 

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outofthisbinary:

SITES I MENTIONED:

http://glbtnearme.org/

http://nonbinary.org/wiki/Main_Page

BLOG POSTS:

http://neutrois.me/2013/04/17/explaining-genderqueer-to-those-who-are-not/

http://cardboardmoose.wordpress.com/2011/06/09/coming-out-to-your-parents-a-101-for-non-binary-types/

INFORMATION ABOUT FOREIGN AND/OR ANCIET NONBINARY GENDERS (this really helped me feel more confident about facing people who refused to believe my identity exists):

http://strawberreli.tumblr.com/post/54709921954/i-was-asked-about-non-western-european-genders-and

http://www.transtorah.org/resources.html

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gaywrites:

Check out the trailer for “I am the T,” a documentary in the works about the lives of seven trans guys in seven different countries. These men are doing incredible work and hoping to increase visibility of trans lives on an international scale — and they need your help to make it happen. If you’ve got the means, consider donating to their Indiegogo campaign here

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Romeo and Julliet 🙈🙉🙊

The winner of Miss Spain 2013 has revealed that she is gay.

Patricia Yurena Rodríguez, who won the modelling competition last year, posted a photo on Instagram with her partner, the Spanish DJ and singer Vanesa Klein, with the caption “Romeo and Juliet”.

I fell in love when I was 16 and had this major crush on… I guess he was a drag queen? He was bisexual and a ballerina, and this was while I was at the Atlantic Theater Company in Vermont. We used to go to this gay club and I’d dance with him all night, four nights a week. I was so in love with him and thought, ‘There’s no way this guy’s going to hell,’ because in my church, it was, ‘Anybody who’s gay is going to hell’ and ‘Premarital sex is evil,’ and I thought, ‘There’s no chance! This guy is amazing!’ So that went right out the window.